Resolving Epic Estate Battles Before They Begin While Saving Relationships
It's not easy to talk about death, wills, trusts, terminal illness, or loss. Conflicts about family money and elder care can put important relationships at risk. Mediator and Estate Planning Lawyer John O'Grady's legacy is alive every time he guides people to resolve their battles so they stay connected and in conversation for a lifetime.
Since 1989, John has successfully mediated hundreds of inheritance, co-ownership, and business disputes. Seemingly insurmountable and unspeakable conflicts come to resolution as a direct result of his attentive listening and thoughtful questions. Described as direct, empathetic, and non-judgmental, John's persistent, calm demeanor is the foundation from which he skillfully guides people who are stuck in power struggles to come to terms and get beyond their conflicts.
John's path to pursue this work is personal. Soon after law school graduation, John's sister, husband, and infant son were tested HIV positive. John's journey through grieving the illness and passing of his sister and husband was the most painful and transformative experience of his life. He is adept at encouraging people to talk about unspeakable issues such as death, legacy and loss. His heart-felt compassion and understanding guide people in conflict to resolutions with grace.
There is inherent tension between talking about disagreements and coming to terms. Highly charged estate conversations often merit more than one meeting as conflicts have usually escalated over time. Participants reach agreements that bring them together for the long term when they are open to facing traumatic life and death issues and willing to change. This end result is priceless.
John frequently offers elder care and inheritance negotiation and conflict resolution training for professionals. He welcomes invitations to inspire and empower forward thinking professionals to grow their practices with essential and relationship-saving elder mediation skills.
John serves as Chair of The Estate Planning, Trust & Probate Section of the Bar Association of San Francisco. He is continually refining his skills as a member of the Trusts and Estates Section of the State Bar of California, the San Francisco Estate Planning Council, the Association for Dispute Resolution of Northern California, the Association for Conflict Resolution and Community Boards. John earned his J.D. and LL.M. (Taxation) from Golden Gate University and B.A. from the University of California, Berkeley.